We are all naturally afraid of change, the problem is that when things change slowly you don't notice them and they seem to not affect you much.
That is what has been happening here in SA, a small change here, a small change there makes you used to small changes. Then they make a bigger change here and there. Now you are referencing that change to the previous one and it doesn't seem so bad, but compared to what the situation was initially, the change would be big & unacceptable. This lays the platform for even bigger changes.
The communists have been doing this for years.....
With us moving to NZ, we are actually taking a step back to where we were years ago as far as our comfort zones are concerned, but because so much has changed in SA, it feels like a huge step out of our comfor zone.
Then there is obviously the support systems we have become used to - friends and family you know you can trust, lean and rely on. For all of us, that is the biggest hurdle to overcome. But if we look back over the years, how many good friends have actually come and gone and we are still surviving, so we can do it again, just like we did when we left school and went to Uni or the army. You had to do it, you had no choice.
It was difficult in the beginning, but we all survived and made great friends.
The difference now is that we all want to move so our mindset is positive and that is always half the battle won. We must just put in a bit more effort to make, keep and accept our new friends than what we did before because we need to become not just friends to each other, but family.
Especially with the kids, we need to take over the Ouma and Oupa role with our friend's kids so that they still experience that 'family' bond that we all grew up with.
