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Offline Bigboy

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« on: March 09, 2008, 10:59:58 am »
Hello everyone, I arrived in Christchurch completely blind as to what to expect about 2 weeks ago and my family is still in SA. I miss home one thing terribly and have still not been able to get around to making some friends. I have been looking for some expats all over to just hook up, chat and ask for advise. I have a job interview in Wellington in a week and it offers 80K a year with a 12K December bonus. I have just been so disorientated and need to know if I will be able to cope on that salary with a wife and a baby. I also was hoping to meet up with someone in a pub or coffee shop in CHCH, just to chat and ask for some advise and hopefully feel better about everything. It seems I just need to see a friendly face thats all. Please help, I do feel like I am goign nuts to certain degree.

Offline WendyH

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« Reply #1 on: March 09, 2008, 11:05:25 am »
Hi Bigboy! You've found the best place to meet people! There are several members in Chch and Wellington who will answer you soon and others who have been in your position and know exactly what you're going through. You're not alone  O0 And 80K is a very good salary!
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Offline Bigboy

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« Reply #2 on: March 09, 2008, 11:07:26 am »
Thank You Wendy,

I hope so and thank all the guys for this site!

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« Reply #3 on: March 09, 2008, 11:10:32 am »
Hang in there, Bigboy! You are stronger than you think. See, you've already made it this far.  I'm sure some of the Chch ppl will check in soon, so check back regularly, In the meantime this is a great place to share experiences and draw from others' trials and efforts!

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« Reply #4 on: March 09, 2008, 12:11:05 pm »
Hi Bigboy and welcome,

It might not seem like it at the moment, but you are more lucky than most of us - we are still in SA and can't wait to be in NZ.  We are only coming over in Dec (hopefully sooner).  You just need to focus on why you are there.  I have found this sight to be like family, you can cry on anyone's shoulder, they understand and do not judge you in anyway - so feel free to do so at anytime.  When are you expecting your wife and baby to come over?



Offline Happy Expat

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« Reply #5 on: March 09, 2008, 07:47:09 pm »
Hi Bigboy and welcome to the site and to NZ :clap:

I'm in Chch, I'll PM you my contact details O0


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« Reply #6 on: March 09, 2008, 09:30:18 pm »
Welcome Big Boy :clap:
80k is indeed a very good salary!!  :o What type of job are you doing? We just wait for our visas then we will be there!!

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Offline Mumtaz (CapetonianInWellington)

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« Reply #7 on: March 09, 2008, 09:43:08 pm »
Hi there

Great -  :gl:with the interview.



Offline zatexnz

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« Reply #8 on: March 09, 2008, 11:19:32 pm »
As the others have said, 80K is a VERY good salary and you only have one kid!  Average salary here is under 40K, so usually both parents then have to work.  So your wife will be able to stay at home and be the best mom to her baby.  And then you still get a 12K bonus in December?  :heeha:  No worries man, you got it made, BigBoy!!!


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« Reply #9 on: March 10, 2008, 12:02:44 am »
Hi BB

Welcome. Good salary - you will be A-OK with that5 amount!

Hang in there - it gets better!  O0 I jhave been here 2 months - Hubby still a bit unsettled but getting better. Join some clubs/ the gym or a church to meet people - or else you are going to go nuts!

Good luck - you are doing a good thing for your family! Soon you will all be together again!

How about telling us a bit more about your family and type of work?



Offline TheRindels

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« Reply #10 on: March 10, 2008, 05:06:23 am »
Hi

We're also in CHCH - only been here 8 months so will be great to catch up - I'll also send you our contact details. We are about 10 mins out of CHCH - if you need a lift we'llcome fetch you.

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Offline Bigboy

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« Reply #11 on: March 10, 2008, 05:49:35 am »
Hi Everyone,

It feels good knowing I am not the only one that has gone through this. I am working in the casino industry and currently installing Pokie machines as they call them here. As for my wife and kid, she is very uncertain and so am I as to wether or not we will be able to cope. A few of my friends have immigrated to other countries and ended having a divorce due to the one partner not being able to cope and the other not wanting to leave. She was talking about only joining me in six months or so, but I want her here now already.

Thanks again for all the advise and I will definitely take all of you up on your offers.
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Offline Amber

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« Reply #12 on: March 10, 2008, 08:08:00 am »
You are doing a great thing.  Most of us go through doubts and fears, it is normal.  One thing I have picked up on though - immigration will not fix any relationship problems that a person may have.  Fixed any problems before you make the move and make sure that both parties are comfortable with the decissions and involved with it. 
My DH and I have made every single decission together so if things don't work it out how we want them to there can be finger pointing.
This is not for sissies - but certainly is worth it, without a doubt!
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« Reply #13 on: March 10, 2008, 12:16:54 pm »
Welcome to the family Bigboy  O0 Try and get your wife to join this site as well.  She will get lots of encouragement and see the positives and negatives  O0

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« Reply #14 on: March 10, 2008, 06:54:19 pm »
Hi Bigboy welcome to the family  :clap: and remember you guys are a family and you must plan together and also remember your wedding vows -  :gl: and keep us posted  O0