Author Topic: Returning to SA (Read 4473 times)

Micayla · « **Reply #30 on:** February 09, 2009, 02:30:37 PM »

All the best...Hoping you will be happy

dance · « **Reply #31 on:** February 09, 2009, 06:06:09 PM »

Marcia if you can't beat them join them! Great bonding opportunity here. My daughter's boyfriend and I are going together on Thursday and will use this time for bonding. Although I must admit that I am scared witless and think he is looking to get a good laugh at me out of the deal!

Seriously it's not a biggie. It is no way going to change who he is so let him have it. rather let him express his individuality this way than maybe experimenting with really bad stuff. Unhappy untatood teen vs Happy teen with multiple tats? No contest imho

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Amber · « **Reply #32 on:** February 09, 2009, 07:40:41 PM »

Hi There
I hope everything works out for you. When we had only been here 4 months I was very depressed and would have jumped on a plane back to SA. But we have had a great summer, family that came to visit and point out all the good things here and how lucky we are to be away from the nonsense in SA and we have settled down into our new life. Somethings are hard to accept and it has been hard to change out ways (where necessary) but now I ma more relaxing and loving the family time that we are sharing!
Amber

Thaniasa · « **Reply #33 on:** February 09, 2009, 09:00:06 PM »

Quote from: dance on February 09, 2009, 06:06:09 PM

Marcia if you can't beat them join them!

I agree with dance. Remember a teenager rebels against anything that her/his parents stands for.....the trick is to let them think you like the stuff (that you actually don't like). Tell them you should go together for a tatoo and see how quickly they change their mind....my boys are scared out of their minds when they tried to imagine how their mother would look with the same tatoo they want....

Marcia....good luck, they are monsters (only a mother can love) at 13 to 19.....but it gets much better when they reach 21. (Once they reach 21, you actually miss the stage when they were 13 to 19.)

Just shows you....humans are rarely happy with their current situation.

itbjcm · « **Reply #34 on:** February 10, 2009, 08:01:11 PM »

John Howard said the following in a speech (2007):
Immigrants, not Australians must adapt

"This is OUR COUNTRY, OUR LAND, and OUR LIFESTYLE, and we will allow you every opportunity to enjoy all this. But once you are done complaining, whining, and griping about Our Flag, Our Pledge, Our Christian beliefs, or Our Way of Life, I highly encourage you take advantage of one other great Australian freedom,

'THE RIGHT TO LEAVE'."

"If you aren't happy here then LEAVE. We didn't force you to come here. You asked to be here. So accept the country YOU accepted."
http://www.gloucestercitynews.net/clearysnotebook/2007/10/prime-minister-.html

I think the same goes for NZ immigrants.

Thaniasa · « **Reply #35 on:** February 10, 2009, 08:48:21 PM »

Great words and true!

Nolan · « **Reply #36 on:** February 10, 2009, 09:22:52 PM »

SA Going to NZ Advice Forum · « **Reply #36 on:** February 10, 2009, 09:22:52 PM »

Feather · « **Reply #37 on:** February 10, 2009, 10:18:35 PM »

Very true

Happy Expat · « **Reply #38 on:** February 10, 2009, 10:31:03 PM »

I agree

Durbschick1 · « **Reply #39 on:** February 11, 2009, 03:04:50 AM »

I feel conflicted about the tatoo thing, my sis is going for her first one this weekend. I would not bet able to stand the pain, but there are some nice tatoos out there, everething in moderation I would say!

Good luck for the future, we love NZ but can understand that it might not be the best for everyone!

Feather · « **Reply #40 on:** February 11, 2009, 03:47:31 AM »

I saw a bloke in Countdown yesterday, looked like he had been hit with a wet comic book all down his arms.

I'm not exactly going to go out and get a tattoo, not in my nature. It doesn't worry me if any one else has one, each to their own, heck my own sister has a dolphin on her ankle, she was going to add colour to it.

ryanrich · « **Reply #41 on:** February 11, 2009, 07:44:51 AM »

Thanks for posting that itbjcm, I couldn't agree more with what he says!

To be honest, the things that some people returning to SA moan about in NZ are so small in comparison to what they'll be coming back to in this place. I think once away from SA the mind glamourises the past and we remember the good things that we miss, but are quick to forget why we left in the first place.

I for one am so grateful that I have the opportunity to move to a lovely country like NZ and will be making the most of it there.

NZ - Home.

SA Going to NZ Advice Forum · « **Reply #41 on:** February 11, 2009, 07:44:51 AM »

ronaldd · « **Reply #42 on:** February 11, 2009, 07:54:42 AM »

we forget way to quickly.

we dont have to remember the details, but what ever made us quit good jobs, sell our nice house, say goodbye to our friends and family, and then travel around the world... to settle in a foreign country and start all over.. IS BIG.....

so we dont have to remember why we left, but it is surely enough to think twice.

I think to a certain extent if you were in a good position in SA, and had a good standard of living, then having to settle for second best in NZ, does make you depressed, especially if you spent the last 20 years getting there, only to start over.

ryanrich · « **Reply #43 on:** February 11, 2009, 08:01:30 AM »

Indeed ronaldd!

Standard of living versus quality of living I think. To me, having all the money, high paying job, fancy car, all means nothing in the big picture.

ronaldd · « **Reply #44 on:** February 11, 2009, 08:48:39 AM »

living long enough to see my kids leave the house.... is the simplest reason to go.

I would show my calculations but at the current murder rate, i calculated that i have a 1 in 8 chance of loosing 1 of my family members before i retire at 65 because of a murder. My calculations might be fuzzy... but bottom line, the only time i want those type of odds is when i am playing the lotto....

besides, now having sold up and moved.. moving back means we have to find a job again in a market that has 43% unemployment?

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