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Offline Tui

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How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« on: September 20, 2010, 07:13:25 am »
Hey all! After almost 2 years here in OZ, we still do not know our neighbors >:( Find that they keep well to themselves - which is cool as it is their choice, but I really miss that 'sense of belonging' when it comes to neighborhood issues.....Back in CT, would have the lady behind us peering over her wall looking for me in our garden and it would be a case of Psst, and I would see her and go over and chat about....'Did you happen to hear?'...blah, blah, blah....and we would chat away, and she would pop in for coffee.  Our other neighbors kids standing in their tree overlooking our garden calling my daughter to come and play..... :'( so miss my familiarity and my history :'(.....here it is just a wave . Who remembers the first knock you got at the door -  after immigrating in your new home??? NO ONE comes and visits and that first knock almost makes you  :faint: with shock.... :2funny: Back in SA we all had constant ringing of the door bell - so pro's and con's... ::)

I will make a HUGE effort to make friends with my Kiwi neighbors - it really does help to 'fit in' a lot better ;) And the 'sense of belonging' makes it all worth while!
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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #1 on: September 20, 2010, 07:41:46 am »
Know what you mean.  About 11 years ago DOS lived in the house behind me here in EL and we erected a semi-perm ladder thingy and she used to climb over.  Now bear in mind that DOS is 23 yrs older than me  :2funny:  Was quite a challenge going back after a few drinks.  Such good memories  :)  And now we will meet again in NZ of all places in Oct/Nov.   :yippee: Who would have thought?

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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #2 on: September 20, 2010, 08:07:50 am »
I am happy to say that we have no neighbours  ;D.  Nearest one is about 3 yard sizes away.  This really suites me as I am one of those people who love to visit and chat - when it's convenient for me  :2funny:  I believe they call it 'aloof'.  Terrible aint I.
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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #3 on: September 20, 2010, 08:23:44 am »
Each for his/her own.... ;) yes, I too like my own time - but like the odd pop in for a natter as well - in moderation of course.... :whistle:But it is so welcoming to know your neighbors personally and by name - as many times I would have to borrow something or leave a key by them for one of the kids etc......It times of urgency, it really does help!
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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #4 on: September 20, 2010, 09:05:52 am »
Well, not sure what other forumites will say, but our neighbours have all stuck to themselves.  In Whakatane, we moved in a back section house and when we first moved in, we knew the lady in the front section.  We would stop to have a quick chat but that was about it.  Never were invited in and she never came into our house.  When she sold her house, we never got to know the new neighbours.  As I said all the other neighbours around us stuck to themselves.

Here in Auckland, same story, we have never met the neighbours - it is just a wave through the windows if we happen to spot each other in our kitchens.

But I have heard that the Kiwis kinda stick to themselves.

Quite honestly, I am a bit like Jackie.  I also love to be sociable and enjoy a good chat but definitley don't want nosy neighbours or those that feel they can fall into your house willy nilly.  We had that in SA in our last complex and it drove me nuts.  They would just barge in all hours of the day, even when I was having an afternoon snooze on the couch - and would get all uptight if we ignored them.


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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #5 on: September 20, 2010, 10:00:46 am »
Our neighbours are too far away, but the friends we have made are awesome.  I am  also what some would call "aloof" in that I love my own space, but I love to socialise too.  Usually on my own terms.  Sounds horrendous.  But when you come for a braai, the red carpet will be rolled out !!!! 

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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #6 on: September 20, 2010, 10:27:49 am »
After living in this house for 2.5 years, and only having met the one neighbour, because they were having fireworks on Guy Fawkes night - and I'd made the effort to go over, I decided to make the effort myself.  I don't even get waves most times!!  They don't even LOOK to see if anybody is there!  So I baked cookies with the kids, and we went over to the neighbours, either side, and across the road.  All nice people, but as you say, they stick to themselves.  My next door neighbour has grandsons that are about Joshua's age and slightly older.  During the summer months, they have occasionally allowed my kids to come and swim in their pool, but it's always me having to ask, never them inviting us, so I feel like I don't want to make a nuisance of myself or my kids.  We do get to chat over the fence when I do a bit of garden work in the back yard.  And when she goes walking and we're in the driveway, she'll stop and chat.  But that's just the one lady.  All the others, have said "thanks for the cookies", and I've still not heard from them again!

Our kitchen is upstairs and overlooks the street, so I get to watching when the neighbours come and go, and when they get visitors.  The day I delivered cookies, the one neighbour directly across from us, was not there, so I STILL haven't met her!  (and that was in December last year that we did the cookies thing!).  It'll be 3 years next month, that we've lived here.  I've given up trying.  I make friends with people I come into contact with at home school groups or church. 

In contrast, when we moved into our house in TX, Jan had a chat with the one lady opposite us, and she gave him the full run-down of all who lived in our neighbourhood!  He came home telling me to be VERY careful what I told her, as she seemed to be the neighbourhood busybody! lol.  I later got to know her and she's a great woman!  All our neighbours came in the first week to either bring gifts for the new baby, or cake.  We knew ALL our immediate neighbours in TX!

I sure miss that here!
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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #7 on: September 20, 2010, 10:44:06 am »
WOW! What an interesting topic!
When we lived in SA my kids were constantly at my neighbours and her kids were at my house, were joking about putting in a turnstyle so that the kids could just go to visit from one garden to the other and we would know where they were.

Here in NZ it is some what different.  In Mosgiel I knew my elderly neighbours.  If she was in her garden and saw me out to collect the mail or the bins she would stop for a chat.  They even lent my boys books to read and gave them a farewell gift when we left for Chch.  My neighbours on the other side were good with the boys too.  If he was washing his car I knew that my boys would be talking to him as there wasn't really a fence between our yards at the drive way.

In Chch I knew my neighbours in the back section next to us.  Their children were always playing in my yard with the boys, and some times my boys would go over for a play.  The neighbours in the front we never saw.

Now in Kaiapoi things are very different.  We hardly ever see our neighbours.  The lady in front of us is really not the nicest of people so I am finding it really difficult to approach her.  The neighbours next to us at least greet when they see us.  One lot have even told the boys to climb over the fence to fetch their balls when ever they need to.  Only problem is that mine won't be able to climb back over.  My boys have made friends with another little boy from across the drive from us and he is constantly playing here on the weekends that he spends with his dad.  Most of the neighbours are friendly, just not the type to pop in for a spontaneous visit.

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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #8 on: September 20, 2010, 09:09:21 pm »
in SA and NZ we only knew / know our neighbours on a wave and occasional quick chat over the wall basis and that suits me just fine.

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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #9 on: September 20, 2010, 09:42:56 pm »
We know all the neighbours around us. We're on a private road with two neighbours down the road and two at the top of the road. We know all of them except one at the top. They pick up our post when we're away and Rick takes a walk on our property to make sure all is well. We've been away a few times in the last year and each time we've let everyone know and they've all watched the place for us.

Rick also owns a pet shop so we buy our dog food from him. He is a little more expensive (but is the only one who stocks the food we buy) but he always gives us a freebie here and there. We always stop for a chat whenever we see him and the others. This is the first time I've ever had a good relationship with neighbours since I've kept my own household.

Previously (in SA), it extended to us having to call the cops all the time because bonehead next door insisted on having wild parties all the time and before that, moron upstairs with the high heels used to have 50 - 60 people in her 2 bedroom flat on a Thursday and we'd end up cleaning up chicken bones and beer cans that they'd "let fall" into our garden upstairs!!
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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #10 on: September 24, 2010, 12:10:38 am »
I'm in Christchurch and before the earthquake I did not know my neighbours.  Since, everyone is talking.  At the bus stop, over the wall and even in the waiting in line at the grocery store.  Now I know my neighbours and even met other people :)
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Re: How well do you know your Kiwi neighbours?
« Reply #11 on: September 24, 2010, 04:10:58 am »
We know ours cause she is our bank lady at ANZ  :) We got to know them better because their TV aerial broke Tuesday because of the wind, it was blow staight to the direction of my car and nearly poked a hole in the door!  ;D When I told them the story they totally cracked up laughing. They are really nice people.

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